Character and wisdom are shaped in the mentoring relationships of a “with me” culture. And relationships at this level do not just happen. They are on-purpose relationships whereby skills, resources, knowledge and experience are transferred and exchanged on a relational journey. No less than four types of mentoring relationships come into play in disciple-making cultures.

For too long, the most essential tools for disciple making have been neglected. Nothing can substitute for the Jesus-way of inviting others to be with us as we do life. As important as Bible study, preaching, small group involvement and practical service is to disciple making, nothing can substitute for the ethos of apprenticeship and mentorship that come when a leader invites another to join in on doing life with himself or herself.

In With Me, the intentional aspects of disciple making ”the tools, resources, attitudes and actions”are presented with real-world situational stories and examples of the principles and practices at work.